Post by Rin Minigawa on Dec 4, 2014 9:01:35 GMT -5
I just took a personality quiz this morning that said I'm a Romantic Seme, I always considered myself an uke, but now that I think of it, this makes sense. So which one are you? Seme or Uke?
For those who don't know the difference Seme usually plays the dominant role, either as the compassionate "gentleman" of the relationship to more of a dominating, controlling seme. These come in all sorts of colors from those who encourage their partner to those who break them down, if only to strengthen their grip on their will. Seme's aren't all evil, but some can be drunk with power, but mainly a seme is just the dominant role as kind or cruel as they feel like being. I'm a romantic type apparently lol.
Uke's are the opposite, submissive, not willing to make the first move, they prefer to be led by their seme. According to the quiz I took, they have self esteem issues and rely on their partner to feel like that are worth anything. Which of course isn't true for all ukes; I think this is like the seme thing, not all semes are control freaks, and not all uke's are weak cry babies. So on that note Uke's range from the shy quiet person who likes their seme to do the talking to the emotionally wrecked who can't do anything without their partner's approval.
XD Any other definitions? Experiences with either? I'm curious! keep it pg of course :3
For me, I remember playing the seme with a girlfriend I had in high school, she was not really uke, more like the kind who liked to pretend she was seme but when it came down to it, I was the dominant one. It was really fun getting to be "the guy" as we thought of it. My inner Shoka was super satisfied though a thousand times less perverted. xD
I once dated an Uke male, he was everything a dominant seme would want in an uke, shy, unwilling to stand up for himself, wary of confrontation. He didn't mind holding doors or pulling out chairs for me, but in the end he was someone who needed a really dominant seme. With me trying to be an uke and expecting him to be a seme, even though he just wasn't the type, I grew frustrated with him, challenged him often and tried to force a seme out of him, but alas, it wasn't to be. I pulled a Shoka and hurt him, trying in a last ditch effort to make him stand up to me, it didn't work, and we ended. D:
And of course I have dated the extreme seme control freak, you all know how that turned out. Abusive and bad. But it would have worked if I were the type of uke who was weak and wanted to believe they were worthless and useless without such a seme. It's all part of the fetish that I apparently don't have lol.
In my case, I've probably enjoyed being the "romantic seme" in my relationships most, it's a really beautiful balance. However I'm not %100 seme, I do like to have my partner take the lead once in a while.
So anyway, how about you? What do you define as seme or uke? Which are you? What have you experienced meeting other semes or ukes?
For those who don't know the difference Seme usually plays the dominant role, either as the compassionate "gentleman" of the relationship to more of a dominating, controlling seme. These come in all sorts of colors from those who encourage their partner to those who break them down, if only to strengthen their grip on their will. Seme's aren't all evil, but some can be drunk with power, but mainly a seme is just the dominant role as kind or cruel as they feel like being. I'm a romantic type apparently lol.
Uke's are the opposite, submissive, not willing to make the first move, they prefer to be led by their seme. According to the quiz I took, they have self esteem issues and rely on their partner to feel like that are worth anything. Which of course isn't true for all ukes; I think this is like the seme thing, not all semes are control freaks, and not all uke's are weak cry babies. So on that note Uke's range from the shy quiet person who likes their seme to do the talking to the emotionally wrecked who can't do anything without their partner's approval.
XD Any other definitions? Experiences with either? I'm curious! keep it pg of course :3
For me, I remember playing the seme with a girlfriend I had in high school, she was not really uke, more like the kind who liked to pretend she was seme but when it came down to it, I was the dominant one. It was really fun getting to be "the guy" as we thought of it. My inner Shoka was super satisfied though a thousand times less perverted. xD
I once dated an Uke male, he was everything a dominant seme would want in an uke, shy, unwilling to stand up for himself, wary of confrontation. He didn't mind holding doors or pulling out chairs for me, but in the end he was someone who needed a really dominant seme. With me trying to be an uke and expecting him to be a seme, even though he just wasn't the type, I grew frustrated with him, challenged him often and tried to force a seme out of him, but alas, it wasn't to be. I pulled a Shoka and hurt him, trying in a last ditch effort to make him stand up to me, it didn't work, and we ended. D:
And of course I have dated the extreme seme control freak, you all know how that turned out. Abusive and bad. But it would have worked if I were the type of uke who was weak and wanted to believe they were worthless and useless without such a seme. It's all part of the fetish that I apparently don't have lol.
In my case, I've probably enjoyed being the "romantic seme" in my relationships most, it's a really beautiful balance. However I'm not %100 seme, I do like to have my partner take the lead once in a while.
So anyway, how about you? What do you define as seme or uke? Which are you? What have you experienced meeting other semes or ukes?
